Ladies and Gentlemen, I just stumbled across this article written by Staggered (its a UK men’s Wedding Website)…The title caught my eye so I had to read further…
I think I might just agree with them!
2011 seems to be the Year of the Groom!
Now ladies… this does not take away from the fact that you are the Bride (and lets face it, at the end of the day we all know, these guys love us and will let us have our way if we REALLY REALLY want it bad enough)… but there has been a huge shift in the Grooms involvement and the wedding plans. I have noticed that many of my first inquiries are coming from the Grooms. I have also noticed that these same men have actually put some thought and consideration into the actual wedding plans… they have some pretty strong opinions and thoughts when it comes to the location, the timing, budgeting…… umm… colour scheme????
I am quite impressed, I think I like this new change!! I think the Grooms opinions and involvement help keep the day focused on its main purpose… the marriage of two people who love each other and cannot imagine spending another day apart for the rest of their lives! Lets face it girls… how easy is it for us to get carried away in the vision of flowers and champagne? There are many a time where my husbands calm, collected reasoning brings me back down to earth… do I hate it, yes of course… but it is a good “marriage” of views (no pun intended lol!).
So.. what do we think of this?
Guys: do you love being involved in the wedding plans?
Girls: do you wish your Groom would leave all the decisions up to you?
Here’s the article ….. Enjoy!
“We are absolutely not saying that the wedding is no longer the bride’s big day, or that men are more important – we know how dangerous that would be!” explains Staggered editor Andrew Shanahan. “What we want wedding companies to do is accept that a wedding should be a celebration of the couple and that obviously includes both brides and grooms. Unfortunately, the feedback from our readers is that grooms are still seen as a bit of an irrelevance by some suppliers.”
Although some grooms may have been given a rough ride – with an iknow survey showing that 47 per cent of grooms have had to battle for inclusion in the wedding plans – many forward-thinking wedding businesses are already accepting that grooms are playing a greater part in the wedding planning process. Perhaps inspired by programmes like BBC3’s Don’t Tell The Bride, they are even beginning to see the emergence of the wedding-obsessed Groomzillas.
“There’s two simple reasons why men are more involved in weddings,” says Shanahan. “The first is that 71 per cent of couples now pay for a wedding themselves, which will cost an average £18,605 in 2011. Grooms spending that much money want a more active role in deciding how it’s spent. Secondly, men are more comfortable with what planning a wedding entails now they have a much higher profile. They have seen that, yes, there are some very girly aspects but things like planning food, drink, entertainment, photography, gifts, guestlists, transport, suits and honeymoons are all very much things men can be involved in.”
One observation that creates the impression that grooms are less interested is that business are more likely to see the bride when it comes to meetings. However, a recent survey of over 600 brides and grooms found that 61 per cent of grooms research and book services online – emphasising how important it is to target them on the web – and only 7 per cent opt for face-to-face contact with suppliers. So even if you never see them the grooms are there – deciding where the wedding budget is spent.